It might seem odd, but I often really applaud impatience.  You see, I tend to appreciate people who don’t want to waste time.  The older I’ve become, the more aware of time I’ve gotten, and the more eager I am to “get on with it.”

Now, that doesn’t mean that I don’t like to savor things, or to relax.  I definitely see the importance of that.  It’s just that I think sometimes people take too long to move forward when going slowly isn’t necessary. They end up wasting a lot of time. 

I don’t mean to offend you if you are one of those people who enjoy researching a topic thoroughly before making a decision.  I would agree that there is definitely a time for doing that.  I’m talking about those of you who use the research as a way of procrastinating, those for whom the research never seems to end. 

The same goes for training.  I’m a big believer in education, but for most things, you don’t really need lots of letters after your name, or to take every training course known to man.  You can learn what you need and move on. 

I also want to challenge people who think it takes a lot of time to change some pattern of behavior.  It doesn’t take years of psychotherapy to get over a trauma. You can take that long if you want, but it isn’t really necessary.  You don’t really have to pick at those emotional scabs over and over again until they bleed.  You can clean them out and move on.

Also, contrary to popular opinion, it doesn’t take three weeks (21 days) to change a habit.  You can actually change a habit instantly—at the moment that you decide to do something else.  Yes, you may want to test it for three weeks to convince yourself that you’ve really changed, but the change itself can be instantaneous. 

My point is that change is not only possible, it is relatively easy.  It doesn’t have to take forever.  Honestly, you don’t honor whatever junk you’ve been through in your life by hanging on to it for years.  If you were abused as a child, or lost someone special, or went through a divorce, or had/have some other struggle, you don’t have to suffer with it.  Decide how long you will let it block you; then decide to move on.  If you need to, get help to do this. 

Imagine if you could just let go of all that emotional baggage (what I call emotional clutter or mental clutter) and create the sort of life you always dreamed about.  What would that be? What have you always wanted?  Focus on what you want, and find a way to move forward.

If you want some help, contact me about my Intensive Sessions.  You can leave your baggage behind in as little as 4 days. Go to http://innerresourcecenter.com/services-offered/intensive-programs/intensive-personal-breakthrough-sessions and let me know that you want more information.

P.S.  Okay, I know that as a psychologist and psychotherapist, I may put myself out of business by helping people achieve results quickly.  That’s okay.  I want you to know that change is possible and doesn’t have to take long to achieve.  I’m happy to teach you how to do it.   If it ever happens that all the impatient people have made their changes and no one else wants to change quickly, I’ll move on too.